Hi Jay,
So, it a new year and yes I’m into this cliche talk about cutting people off. That’s right, I have someone that I want to cut off. My boyfriend, he has to go! He continues to come in and out of my life and I’m putting an end to it. I sound confident, right? Well, actually, I’m having second thoughts. This is someone I’ve been in an off-and-on relationship with for many years. I just feel like he will never commit to me, but I love him. It’s hard to let him go. I need a pep talk to help me drop the ax on his a–!
~ Fed Up and Wanting More
Dear Fed Up,
I must say your candor made me laugh but I can see the sincerity of your frustration. You are frustrated because this guy will not commit to you. That’s what I am hearing. You have every right to stop this in and out experience you are dealing with from him. A pep talk is not what you need though. You will need to make up your mind. That is all. Decide once and for all that you are going to take control of your heart and your life and put an end to the madness.
If he loves you, he will stay with you and not leave you over and over again. You will also have to take accountability for the part you play in this as well. You love him, yes, but let me tell you that will pass away. I have been there. Many have been there and they will tell you that yes, the love and adoration will fade and you will quickly be able to move on with your life. Use this as an opportunity to build some strength so that you never let another partner do you this way again.
